IT’S NATURAL FOR MUMS TO SACRIFICE. (Really?)

natural for mums to sacrifice

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE A MOTHER NOW, SOCIETY EXPECTS YOU SACRIFICE YOURSELF TO THE FULLEST CAPACITY. IF YOU DON’T SACRIFICE, IT MEANS YOU ARE BAD AND SELFISH MOTHER.

Despite living in a modern society, being a woman and especially a mum, still has many constrictive ideology of what we should be, act and behavior.

When we don’t sacrifice, we feel GUILTY. 

I feel guilty when I need a moment to myself and especially when I need the time to do the things I LOVE.

And I especially feel guilty if I have to work in my own business which is my major side project. At the moment, this (business) does take up a bit of my time.

You see, I’m really selfish. I refuse to live the life of what our mothers and grandmothers did when they were raising their own children. Of course, I’m eternally grateful to mum but I choose not to live this way. And perhaps you secretly don’t want too either.

We glorify the WORD “sacrifice” because it’s noble and it’s “the right thing to do”.

So we destroy our soul, we neglect ourselves, forget our passions and be totally disconnected with your TRUTH.

I’m not saying we should all neglect our families and take care of no. 1 only

NO, that’s not what I’m saying. – We should ‘fill our cup’ until it overflows so we have a bucketful of love to give.

I remember my first few months of being a mother, I sacrificed so much of me because I wanted the world to know I’m a good mother and that I’ve got my s#hit together.

I really wanted that “super-mum” status. Which in fact made me hated motherhood even more.

So I became an angry. 

And this is the sort of crap I felt  that I cannot  share it lightly  to the world because they are going to boxed me as someone who has the baby blues or **post natal depression. Which I know in my heart, it’s not what people think. – It’s anger and bitterness.

This is not who I wanted to be remembered by Nina.

So I gave myself permission to dive into the world of personal growth and taking time out as often and as frequent as I can.

Even if it’s a 3 min silent moment in the backyard with the sun rays on my face. And as usual, [and I always say this] I am not perfect but I’m loving my journey now.

My 3s:

  1. Choose self-love NOW.

  2. List a few things you can do to cultivate self-love.

  3. Start doing them.

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