In light of the recent podcast #4 My top 3 tips to start getting happier, it moved to share in my private FB group The Brave Wallflower Girl Gang about my own struggles in my own negative mindset. Living in the past can bring up a lot of regrets, blame, and sadness (to name a few). And so 'this behavior' keeps you small and paralyze you because you are not moving thru fear and being more confident at living your fullest potential.
When I first heard about introversion from Susan Cain, I finally felt understood. I was wondering why I felt drained from going to social events. I thought, maybe I was basically just an anti-social girl and being anti-social is basically a behavior that is undesirable. At a very young age, I already knew that my personality and WHO I AM was unloveable. Which of course became a problem for me as I become a young adult.
Recently, I've just expressed how much I feel like a failure on Instagram. Mainly, regarding around how I am as a mother. Even more so these days, as I feel like a complete failure as a life coach, thinking I'm helping a client only to FEEL like I stuffed up her even more.
Hello inner mean cray-cray negative me!
But my beautiful mentor reminded me that it is ok to feel the emotions of failure, in fact, welcome it with open arms, sit with it and feel the pain. [Really?] Yes really. Then, choose to say "Hello failure, I feel you, I acknowledge you but you do not serve me right now. Because I'm the type of woman who knows I am doing a great job as a mother, in my life coaching modalities and in life."
I wanted to bring this up about myself because I feel like I am a total imposter. I've always had more trouble creating connections with females than I do males. Now, I feel like an imposter because in this work that I am doing [in this space], I generally and only work with women. And in my day job, my team is mainly made up of women.
As a grown ass woman, I was paralysed by FEAR. I felt I was not worthy of any female connections.
I know how deep and magical feminine energies can be. So I ask myself: WHY the sudden crave (not this is the right word for it) for female connections? And so I journal where this thought pattern came from
** Just a heads up this is an oldie (this interview was done in May 2016) but a goodie and I really needed to repost it and upload this on my Brave Wallflower Show as well. So you could either watch us or tune in x.
MOST OF US HATE HOW WE LOOK IN PHOTOS. AGREED? WE CAN BE EXTREMELY HARSH AND MEAN TO OURSELVES WHEN IT COMES TO OUR UNIQUE BEAUTY AND BODY IMAGE.
I am a shy introverted wallflower.
The truth about this statement is that I am the one who gave myself those labels.Yeah sure, there was a lot of childhood experiences in my past that shaped my life [some good, some bad] but as I got older, do I hear anyone giving me those feedback about myself?
I am my worst enemy hands down!